How to explain LDC for all to children?
In the run-up to the new mobilization against the bioethics bill on the weekend of November 30 and December 1, Aleteia spoke with Bernadette Lemoine, psychologist and psychotherapist, to find the most accurate words possible for discuss with a child the subject of LDC open to all women.
"Soon, a child will be able to have two mothers! It was the mistress who said it! Josephine, 7, said on her way home from school. An idea that children could not even imagine a few years ago, and which now belongs to the order of possibilities in their little head. What can we say to that? Some will say that there is nothing to answer. Others, anxious to emphasize the richness of parental otherness, will find here solutions adapted to children.
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DON'T EVADE THE SUBJECT
Whatever the outcome of the bioethics bill, the idea that a child can have two mothers has certainly already come a long way in the minds of children. Between school, the playground, books seen in the library and television news, it's hard to get through. That's why it's important to have the right tools to talk to your child about it. A first element of the answer would be to take into account his remark and acknowledge the facts: "Indeed, there are people who think that you can build a family with two mothers", suggests Bernadette Lemoine. "These moms of course have the ability to love their child, but he doesn't grow up in the same way as if he had a mom and dad."
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HIGHLIGHT THE RICHESSE OF PARENTAL ALTITY
With many years of experience as a psychotherapist specializing in separation anxiety disorders and author of numerous books, Bernadette Lemoine is convinced that a child raised by a same-sex couple does not develop from the same way as if it is raised by a heterosexual couple. She invites the child to say: "Dads are not like moms. Everyone has qualities of their own and they are not the same. They complement each other." You can get the child to think about the situation by projecting yourself: "If you had two moms, it means you wouldn't have a dad, what would you do?"
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"SCIENCE WITHOUT CONSCIENCE IS THAT RUIN OF The EME" (RABELAIS)
Children are not too small to perceive the limits of science. They are able to understand the difference between power and desire. They can then be explained in part the reasons and problems raised by the bill in favour of the LDC for all. "For many women, it's very painful not to have children. That's why doctors have been able to ensure that women can have a child without a husband, with a man they don't know. But they probably don't realize that they don't offer the best conditions to raise a child. Scientific advances and human intelligence have made possible what was not possible in the past, but just because something can be done does not mean that something is good," says Bernadette Lemoine.
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GETTING INTO THE REAL WORLD
In order to get around the matter properly, it will be necessary to be sincere and affirm that two women together cannot give life. Without going into the complex process of LDC, however, it can be said that it took a man for a child to be conceived. This clarification underlines how lucky a child of a heterosexual couple is to know his father and mother, his grandparents, his origins. On the other hand, it can be pointed out that a child of a same-sex couple will never know his father, and that he will probably miss it when he grows up.
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KNOW THE GOD PLAN FOR HUMANITY
"The man will leave his father and mother, he will attach himself to his wife, and both will become one," reads Genesis (Gn 2:24). For millennia, God has foregone a time for a mom and dad to love each other to give life and grow a child. Bernadette Lemoine advises to invite the child to marvel at the beauty of the human body and procreation that serve God's plan for humanity: "Do you not find magnificent all that God has planned for a child to be born, grow and flourishing? ».
"Soon, a child will be able to have two mothers! It was the mistress who said it! Josephine, 7, said on her way home from school. An idea that children could not even imagine a few years ago, and which now belongs to the order of possibilities in their little head. What can we say to that? Some will say that there is nothing to answer. Others, anxious to emphasize the richness of parental otherness, will find here solutions adapted to children.
1
DON'T EVADE THE SUBJECT
Whatever the outcome of the bioethics bill, the idea that a child can have two mothers has certainly already come a long way in the minds of children. Between school, the playground, books seen in the library and television news, it's hard to get through. That's why it's important to have the right tools to talk to your child about it. A first element of the answer would be to take into account his remark and acknowledge the facts: "Indeed, there are people who think that you can build a family with two mothers", suggests Bernadette Lemoine. "These moms of course have the ability to love their child, but he doesn't grow up in the same way as if he had a mom and dad."
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HIGHLIGHT THE RICHESSE OF PARENTAL ALTITY
With many years of experience as a psychotherapist specializing in separation anxiety disorders and author of numerous books, Bernadette Lemoine is convinced that a child raised by a same-sex couple does not develop from the same way as if it is raised by a heterosexual couple. She invites the child to say: "Dads are not like moms. Everyone has qualities of their own and they are not the same. They complement each other." You can get the child to think about the situation by projecting yourself: "If you had two moms, it means you wouldn't have a dad, what would you do?"
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"SCIENCE WITHOUT CONSCIENCE IS THAT RUIN OF The EME" (RABELAIS)
Children are not too small to perceive the limits of science. They are able to understand the difference between power and desire. They can then be explained in part the reasons and problems raised by the bill in favour of the LDC for all. "For many women, it's very painful not to have children. That's why doctors have been able to ensure that women can have a child without a husband, with a man they don't know. But they probably don't realize that they don't offer the best conditions to raise a child. Scientific advances and human intelligence have made possible what was not possible in the past, but just because something can be done does not mean that something is good," says Bernadette Lemoine.
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GETTING INTO THE REAL WORLD
In order to get around the matter properly, it will be necessary to be sincere and affirm that two women together cannot give life. Without going into the complex process of LDC, however, it can be said that it took a man for a child to be conceived. This clarification underlines how lucky a child of a heterosexual couple is to know his father and mother, his grandparents, his origins. On the other hand, it can be pointed out that a child of a same-sex couple will never know his father, and that he will probably miss it when he grows up.
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KNOW THE GOD PLAN FOR HUMANITY
"The man will leave his father and mother, he will attach himself to his wife, and both will become one," reads Genesis (Gn 2:24). For millennia, God has foregone a time for a mom and dad to love each other to give life and grow a child. Bernadette Lemoine advises to invite the child to marvel at the beauty of the human body and procreation that serve God's plan for humanity: "Do you not find magnificent all that God has planned for a child to be born, grow and flourishing? ».
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