Lying to your children is ultimately lacking faith
It seems relatively simple to tell our children the truth about "normal" things, but when they are painful, such as illness, death, loss of a job... we are tempted to hide evil from them at all costs. Do you have to tell your children everything? Is all truth good to say?
It is not permissible to do evil to make it a good. A good intention (for example: helping one's neighbour) does not make good or just a behavior in itself disordered (like lying). It's clear: you can't lie, even to protect a child. Lying distracts us from God, it closes our hearts and intelligences to its light. But the only real weapon we have to fight evil, the only effective protection we can offer our children, is God himself.
To lie because we believe that there is no other solution is, in the end, to lack faith, in a way, is to say to God: "You ask me something impossible. I know what's best." When it is our duty to tell the truth, let us trust the Holy Spirit: It will never be lacking.
Telling the truth, but not just any way
You have to tell the truth, but not necessarily the whole truth. In many cases, we have the right and even the duty to remain silent. This is true in many areas and not just in the case of painful or unhealthy realities. And it's not a lack of honesty to hide certain things from your children. On the contrary, it is a matter of respect and modesty. It is to exert real violence on them to give them confidences or to reveal secrets that they are not able to carry.
It is not always possible to remain silent, especially when one assumes that the child has discovered the truth or at least urges it. In this case, there is no choice: you have to talk, but not just any way. Before you speak, you have to listen, that is, to be deeply attentive to the child you have in front of you. The more truth a truth relates to a delicate situation, the more important it is not to reveal it in any way. Thus, it is often very desirable to talk with each child, one by one, because everyone will react in their own way and they do not all need to hear the same things. Even when you have been led to talk to them all at the same time, you can try to talk about it with everyone, even if it means provoking one-on-one opportunities. It should be noted that a one-on-one assumes, as the name suggests, only two interlocutors: a child will often be more comfortable with one of his parents, rather than with both at the same time.
To tell the truth, simple words are always the best
You have to call a cat a spade and evil by name. In a world where all deviations are accepted and trivialized, it is more important than ever to give children clear benchmarks. Parents need to teach them to judge actions, to say, "It's good, it's wrong."
And, at the same time, never to judge people, to speak of every man as a son of God, infinitely loved by his Father, for one never tells the truth well if one does not tell it with love and love. Only love will heal the child from the wounds that certain revelations may inflict on him. Only he can put on our lips the right words to lead our children to the whole truth.
It is not permissible to do evil to make it a good. A good intention (for example: helping one's neighbour) does not make good or just a behavior in itself disordered (like lying). It's clear: you can't lie, even to protect a child. Lying distracts us from God, it closes our hearts and intelligences to its light. But the only real weapon we have to fight evil, the only effective protection we can offer our children, is God himself.
To lie because we believe that there is no other solution is, in the end, to lack faith, in a way, is to say to God: "You ask me something impossible. I know what's best." When it is our duty to tell the truth, let us trust the Holy Spirit: It will never be lacking.
Telling the truth, but not just any way
You have to tell the truth, but not necessarily the whole truth. In many cases, we have the right and even the duty to remain silent. This is true in many areas and not just in the case of painful or unhealthy realities. And it's not a lack of honesty to hide certain things from your children. On the contrary, it is a matter of respect and modesty. It is to exert real violence on them to give them confidences or to reveal secrets that they are not able to carry.
It is not always possible to remain silent, especially when one assumes that the child has discovered the truth or at least urges it. In this case, there is no choice: you have to talk, but not just any way. Before you speak, you have to listen, that is, to be deeply attentive to the child you have in front of you. The more truth a truth relates to a delicate situation, the more important it is not to reveal it in any way. Thus, it is often very desirable to talk with each child, one by one, because everyone will react in their own way and they do not all need to hear the same things. Even when you have been led to talk to them all at the same time, you can try to talk about it with everyone, even if it means provoking one-on-one opportunities. It should be noted that a one-on-one assumes, as the name suggests, only two interlocutors: a child will often be more comfortable with one of his parents, rather than with both at the same time.
To tell the truth, simple words are always the best
You have to call a cat a spade and evil by name. In a world where all deviations are accepted and trivialized, it is more important than ever to give children clear benchmarks. Parents need to teach them to judge actions, to say, "It's good, it's wrong."
And, at the same time, never to judge people, to speak of every man as a son of God, infinitely loved by his Father, for one never tells the truth well if one does not tell it with love and love. Only love will heal the child from the wounds that certain revelations may inflict on him. Only he can put on our lips the right words to lead our children to the whole truth.
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