First Christmas in the in-laws: how to welcome the newcomer?

If you welcome a newlywed or a bride into your tribe at Christmas, here are a few ways to ensure his good and happy integration among you.
Christmas is rich in ancestral traditions and known to all, but also customs specific to each family. Customs that affect many areas: how to decorate the tree and the house, more or less measured abundance of the Menu of New Year's Eve, time of Mass, ceremonial opening of gifts, etc. These are all habits that are well-established in a family but are necessarily different from those of the newcomer's family of origin. So to avoid it being disconcerted by this new way of celebrating Christmas, it is difficult to have little attention towards it.

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PROPOSE WITHOUT IMPOSING
Without hammering the program in an authoritarian way, it is welcome to inform in advance of your family habits and customs: "This is what we usually do... "Here are the mass schedules, let's choose together," "when do you want to open the gifts?" ... History that the newcomer is not in bed when he goes to Mass or opens the gifts! And even if the traditions follow each other and are similar from year to year, a time of family consultation is important to put everyone informed and on an equal footing, and to eventually revisit them according to the circumstances.

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INATTENTION TO HIS FAMILIALS TRADITIONS
It is also a good thing to take an interest in the "new kid" by asking him how he celebrates Christmas in his family. On the one hand, it is to show welcome and interest in it, on the other hand, ideas are always good to take to renew or refresh your ways of doing things.

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INCLURE IN THE PREPARATIONs
The best way for him to feel welcome is to promote his specialties. If your daughter-in-law is a decorating ace, let her take her hand on the tree, the bouquets of holly and the garlands. If your future son-in-law is a master at cooking turkey, offer to cook it. Try to find out what role or mission would give him the opportunity to integrate and find his place among you, and feel free to delegate!

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GIVE HIM A GIFT
Don't forget to give him a little gift! Even if it is obviously included in the family draw, a small gift in addition shows your special benevolence towards the one who celebrates Christmas away from his own for the first time!

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